Did the Father...
"....fence him from poverty, from disgrace, from persecution, from the sense of God's wrath? No. ..the first-begotten Son, the natural Son, he was persecuted as soon as he was born; he was disgraced, calumniated, slandered, and abused to death. He felt the wrath of God... We then may be in the love of God if we be no otherwise than the natural Son was, in whom the love of God was when he was at the worst. In the lowest degree of his abasement, God loved him then as much as at any other time, even when he was accompanied with the sense of the wrath of God. So, reject and beat back all temptations with this invincible argument: It is no otherwise with me than it was with his natural Son."Which is to say, if I want to pray the Spirit's prayer "Abba Father", why would I expect to utter it outside the stresses of Gethsemane where Jesus prayed it too?
"Shall I desire to be loved differently than Christ was loved? God’s love to Christ did not exempt him from slander, from disgrace, from abasement, from the sense of his wrath. Yet he was always the Son of God; so, shall I doubt of my adoption? Shall I dishonour God? Shall I add this sin to the rest of my sins? Satan is wonderful prone to take these weapons, to sharpen them, as I said before, of sin, desertions, sometime of temptations and outward afflictions; and so he comes with his 'If,' 'If you were the Son of God, would he deal thus and thus with you?' It was always his course.Why would we expect our lives to look different to that of the Son of God... (granted he came for a particular purpose, and very significantly he bore wrath so that I don't have to, nonetheless the life of the early church says suffering is pretty much the norm for those loved by God)....
"We must repel all such temptations. God loves us as he loves his Son, he chastises every son; and that God's love is not always and only manifested in exempting of us from these things. Let us measure God's love that he bears to us in Christ, by the best fruits of his love. What are those? A heart to seek him; to fear his name; love to his majesty; love to his children; delight in good things; hatred of that which is evil. None but his can esteem and value his love by these things. By these therefore, and the like peculiar marks and stamps of the Spirit that are in us, let us judge of his love, and not by any outward thing whatsoever; for all outward crosses whatsoever befell his own Son. And can we desire that he should love us otherwise than he loved him? We are predestined to be conformed to him, Rom. 8:29, and why should we refuse to be conformed to him in abasement, with whom we hope to be conformed in glory? Let faith therefore plead against all the suggestions of Satan and accusations of conscience."This is no easy life. How do we live it?
"By faith in the word of God persuade we ourselves that we are in the love of God."Previously Sibbes argued that faith is the apprehension of the love of God in Christ" therefore the focus of persuasion that we're in the love of God is in turning ourselves to the gospel, where we apprehend the love of God. Reasonably and worshipfully.
Feed your new heart upon the Son of God whom the Father reveals to us in the Spirit-inspired Scriptures. Behold him there in the gospel. Worship him. Enjoy him. Know him. Come into loving relationship with the Father by adoption into the Son.
Next question: How do we come to have the love of God in us?