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What would you teach young Christian men?

I was pondering this question in Caffe Nero the other day with a young leader from our church family. The answer we came to was, teach them of Christ so that they will give up their lives like him by being husbands, and be able to be Christian fathers who would instruct their children in the gospel (as in Ephesians)- even if they're not yet married or parents.

Could a young man have a better ambition than obsession with Christ outworking in other-centred life and clarity of gospel-centred doctrine? Could we see a generation of men grow up who truly consider the gospel to be the central focus of their lives? Could we see young men who take responsibility for the domain God gives them and pursue life in Christ?


  1. When I tried that on Relay, all three male members of the CU got engaged within a year. Of course, correlation doesn't prove causation...

  2. A follow-up to this should probably be, what would you teach to young Christian women?

    Comments on either question v.welcome.

  3. In the light of 1 Corinthians, I might say "teach them of Christ, so that will seriously consider not becoming husbands or fathers in order to devote their whole lives to him" - and then secondarily, your thing.

  4. Daniel - fair point. Though I wonder if in our context the prevailing wind is to live for self and not get married... definitely it's Christ first, and then perhaps we flag that that might mean not marrying (as previously planned) for a new reason, but perhaps there is more need to flag the idea of taking responsibility, marrying, multiplying etc to make this life count for Christ...

  5. i *finally* got round to posting my thoughts on this. Or, at least, some of them...


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