Thursday, October 16, 2008

Seven questions friends could ask me that would serve me

Stephen Altrogge:
  • Have you been consistently pursuing the Lord through scripture reading and prayer?
  • Have you diligently pursued your wife/husband this week?
  • Have you seen any persistent patterns of sin in your life recently?
  • Last week you confessed struggling with [insert sin]. Have you taken steps to fight it this week?
  • When you gave into [insert sin], what were you believing about God in that moment? What were you believing about yourself?
  • What is the truth that you need to believe in this situation?
  • When you had the conflict with [insert person], what were you craving at that moment? 
ht: Cawley.

Which isn't to say I'm always going to want to be asked them, but a little examination of the heart is healthy - in the context of the oceans of God's grace and the all sufficiency of the blood of Jesus. Similarly useful are Powlison's X-Ray Questions ht: Buzzard or pdf: X-Ray Questions at Monergism.

It's possible to use these kind of questions rigidly or legalistically or fault-findingly, but also to use them to facilitate growth. What's probably most useful is if I ask them of myself when looking into the glory-revealing scriptures, or I invite others to ask them of me. What's not so helpful is me decidingly to go probing into others lives uninvited.


  1. The 2nd one: "Have you diligently pursued your wife/husband this week?"

    Could someone expand on that, please?

  2. Stephen gives more detail:

    "This questions applies to married folks only. Our relationship with our spouse is our second most important relationship after the Lord. If I’m not diligently investing in my relationship with my wife, there’s a problem."